I'm really happy with the way my RSVPs came out. However, there is one thing I'd definitely change. See under the checkbox, "number of guests?"
To me, that meant the number of guests we can expect - you and a date = 2, you alone = 1, etc. But to some people, that meant the number of guests that person will be bringing. I realized the message wasn't 100% clear when I saw the above RSVP. It was confirmed when Mr Pug's coworker gave him his RSVP and it said "number of guests: 1" but he mentioned how excited he and his girlfriend were about attending.
I would recommend using something like "Total number of guests attending," "Number attending," "We should save __ seats for you," or... I don't know. Something else creative. Don't make the same mistake I did!
Thus far, we've had 35 guests RSVP "yes" and 40 RSVP "no." We counted each guest and their dates separately. Our number of invited guests is 254, but many of those are dates of invited guests (many of whom have decided to not bring a date.)
I've had some disappointments while getting these cards back. 41 of the 75 guest RSVPs we have received are my family or friends, and out of those 41, FOUR are coming. It stinks having them make up almost the whole "no" list thus far! I understand, I can't say I'm angry or don't sympathize... it's just not how I pictured my wedding. Oh well- there is still time! I'm hoping against hope to hit 15 family/friend guests!
Luckily, I have the most amazing Mom in the whole world. She called tonight to see how I was doing and I updated her on our progress and RSVPs. She let me cry and vent to her and made some great suggestions. I'm really the luckiest person to have such a supportive Mom. She doesn't make this about her - she gives advice and ideas in a respectful way, always listens, and cares about what Mr Pug and I want. I could only wish for her to be closer! Luckily, she'll attend some bachelorette festivities in New York City with us, and might even make it out here in February for a dress fitting.
The moral of this happy story? Think more about your RSVPs, and be thankful for your Mom if she is awesome like mine! How is your mother involved in the wedding process? Do you have a friend or family member you go to when you need a "boost?"