Wednesday, January 27, 2010

RSVP Cards... ugh.

I'm really happy with the way my RSVPs came out. However, there is one thing I'd definitely change. See under the checkbox, "number of guests?"

To me, that meant the number of guests we can expect - you and a date = 2, you alone = 1, etc. But to some people, that meant the number of guests that person will be bringing. I realized the message wasn't 100% clear when I saw the above RSVP. It was confirmed when Mr Pug's coworker gave him his RSVP and it said "number of guests: 1" but he mentioned how excited he and his girlfriend were about attending.

I would recommend using something like "Total number of guests attending," "Number attending," "We should save __ seats for you," or... I don't know. Something else creative. Don't make the same mistake I did!

Thus far, we've had 35 guests RSVP "yes" and 40 RSVP "no." We counted each guest and their dates separately. Our number of invited guests is 254, but many of those are dates of invited guests (many of whom have decided to not bring a date.)

I've had some disappointments while getting these cards back. 41 of the 75 guest RSVPs we have received are my family or friends, and out of those 41, FOUR are coming. It stinks having them make up almost the whole "no" list thus far! I understand, I can't say I'm angry or don't sympathize... it's just not how I pictured my wedding. Oh well- there is still time! I'm hoping against hope to hit 15 family/friend guests!

Luckily, I have the most amazing Mom in the whole world. She called tonight to see how I was doing and I updated her on our progress and RSVPs. She let me cry and vent to her and made some great suggestions. I'm really the luckiest person to have such a supportive Mom. She doesn't make this about her - she gives advice and ideas in a respectful way, always listens, and cares about what Mr Pug and I want. I could only wish for her to be closer! Luckily, she'll attend some bachelorette festivities in New York City with us, and might even make it out here in February for a dress fitting.

The moral of this happy story? Think more about your RSVPs, and be thankful for your Mom if she is awesome like mine! How is your mother involved in the wedding process? Do you have a friend or family member you go to when you need a "boost?"


  1. Aw, I'm so sorry to hear about the unfortunate RSVP issue...I wouldn't have even read it that way! So silly. People are weird. We put a lot of thought into our RSVP's as I think you saw on our blog. We used the "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor" and then had a separte line reading "Number attending ___" Invites go out next week so we'll see how it goes!

    So happy you have loving supportive mom! Yea for people who let us vent!

  2. I know you're frustrated, but I'm SO impressed by how you're handling all this!! You've done a much better job of being positive than I ever could've done!

    And yay for wonderful moms who let you cry when you need to! I'm soo thankful for my momma!

  3. Good job on the RSVPs! I'm sure that some people will understand what you mean, while some never will.

    Having a mom who helps (even when she can't be with you) is great. I'm so glad that my mom is good with listening but also tells me if I'm being crazy ;)

  4. Great job on the RSVP's, too bad some people read things differently, but I think that's part of the fun. Not everyone interprets things the same way!

    I also have a very supportive Mom, although mine is only a 2 hour drive away! I love having a supportive Mom, someone I can vent to and cry. I totally understand that!

  5. Ooops about the rsvp wording! Yeah, I hadn't thought about that myself! There are always people who are going to be confused, no matter how much you spell it out in black and white...of that I am convinced! Haha!

  6. I was just trying to figure out RSVP wording last night. Ugh...not fun. I honestly don't have much confidence in most people and not matter how clearly you spell it out, some one will inevitably get it wrong.

    And yay for supportive moms! My mom isn't the "emotional" type so I can't really call her to have a crying vent. Angry vent, yes. But not crying, unfortunately. Your mom sounds great :)

  7. So glad you can vent to your mom and get all the support you need. I too am totally impressed with how you are handling all of this! I hope more of your relatives can make it out to your wedding! Your rsvp's look great by the way. I think no matter what you do, someone is always bound to get it wrong.

  8. I'm so sorry to hear about your RSVP situation. At least you're staying positive. In the end, it will all work out the way it's meant to. :)

    BTW - Your invitations/RSVP cards were really adorable. Even with that little wording snafu, they still came out great. :)